Clearly, you are conflating the character that is the MC with you, the player. Yes, as the player, you can dislike her character and think she is "harassing" you by continuing to try for a deeper relationship when you, the player, clearly don't want anything to do with her.There is a very fine line between a hopeless romantic and a creep. (If you watched himym its the dobler dahmer theory) It depends on the reciever. I don't know how you define harrasment but if someone keeps bugging me when I reject every single advance from them and clearly don't appreciate them, I call that harassment. I wouldn't try to sue for harassment or anything but "harassment" is the term I would use when explaining that situation. Also, in most choices breakup happens because V forces mc to choose between him or jasmine on some small thing.
I'm very aware that Jammin couldn't have made this shit any more difficult for V but come on, just because you want something more doesn't mean you have the right to act like you already have it. I sincerely feel like V's trying to take advantage of the void mc's daughter left and use this as a tool to be something more. If you're not doing everything the way she wants it, every scene you have with her is just her being manipulatively sad over the lack of ring on her finger. This may be bad writing on the devs part, I never got through the first episode in her own path, maybe she's not that bad but simply forced on player in the first episode even if you constantly reject her. When I start a new playthrough I even consciously select "LOL Boobies" to her nude pic just to cut the conversation short. Even if you're entirely respectful, reject her and jasmine the best you could, she's still a clingy little leech. That's what bothers me. If mc's daughter didn't go through an accident, I wouldn't have been bothered this much. But I feel like you have to give mc some space no matter what his response to this tragedy is.
I'm always rejecting her with every chance I get in my playthroughs. My goal isn't to make her sad or get a revenge, it's to be as far away from her as possible (except for the attempt of a cheating playthrough due to fomo). And if you reject her, she still causes bigger drama than every other character in the game combined. And that's saying a lot. A grieving mother who hates mc's guts (justifiably), a redhead homewrecker shithead, a literal fucking international spy, dictionary definiton of victim as a neighbor. And you bother mc more than all those combined.
I'm sure there are some choices where mc leads her on and her actions are kinda justified (I still thinks "sick daughter" card removes any justification agains mc at this moment) but the opposite is also true. No matter how professional you try to choose, she's still clingy as fuck. Since mc clearly doesn't apriciate it in this choices, it's harassment and forcing in my book.
This is where media literacy comes into play. Take a step back and actually think about what's happening. She is not some random woman that is stalking MC and "forcing" him to do some shit she wants. They are something in between a fwb and a casual couple. How close to either side of that spectrum depends on the choices you make for MC. When she says that he never wants to introduce his family or let their relationship be known in public, MC doesn't deny that they have a relationship. To MC, it's a casual thing. A casual relationship is still something more than fwb. Relationships are a two way street and requires compromise and understanding.
But in a relationship where the two parties want different things, it's bound to veer off course, and that's what happens. No one is to blame, other than maybe both of them not ironing out the details of their relationship clearly, and sooner.
When you pick choices to blow her off or be inattentive to her needs, and just act callous in general, you, the player, is signalling that you want nothing to do with her. But MC, the character, is not at that mindset. He isn't trying to remove a stalker. He isn't trying to stop "harassment." He is just going through some shit, and is kind of an asshole if you let him be, and he is just not letting her in. Their complicated relationship is still a thing. So when this relationship that was rocky from the start and would be doomed in basically any route that isn't focusing on V, does end up not working out, it is what it is. She isn't some raging bitch that you conjured up in your head.